September 7, 2006

• (warning; mushy, sentimental post)

  
  

  Wedding Pictures, With Cake

  
  

  (or: how to have a wedding for less than $1000.00)

  
  

  this post inspired by the always amusing emilymr

  
  

  *****

  
  

  Trevor and I were married 10 years ago this Nov.  We were living in Arizona at the time, building our house made of straw but very much wanted to be married in Maine.

  
  

  And so we did.

  
  

  We planned it 8 weeks in advance; we rented a small grange hall in a tiny coastal town, made invitations to send to our very dearest friends and family and called a local Notary Public.

  
  

  My dear friend, Jenny, made the cake of our dreams

  
  

  

  
  

  my sister and I made the arrangements and my bouquet

  
  

  

  
  

  We went to the ocean at sunset, with only our parents and my sister and her husband as witnesses

  
  

  for us, this was such a private moment

  
  

  

  
  

  and we were married there

  
  

  (my mother was so sweet in her little wool hat)

  
  

  

  
  

  

  
  

  

  
  

  afterward, we went back to the hall where our loved ones were waiting.  I spent the two days prior to the ceremony cooking and preparing the food, so it was ready and waiting.

  
  

    We hired a few servers from a local lobster house to pass food and drink around and a local contra dance band provided the music for dancing.

  
  

  We all danced together and it was so very, very joyful.

  
  

  My stepfather sang “Always” and “Hotter Than Mojave in My Heart” for us

  
  

  and it was perfect.

  
  

  

  
  

  I know some people would consider our wedding to be far too casual and less-than-perfect; we spent little money, everything was home made and the wine was not the most expensive we could find.

  
  

  However, it was perfect for us.  It was perfect because he wore his very favorite t-shirt and chamois and new sneakers because this pleased him.  It was perfect because I wanted to dress up more and do my hair and wear lovely things and I did. In this, we honored and supported who we truly are as individuals and entered into this marriage believing in this.

  
  

  And this is why it still works for us, we love each other for who we really, honestly are.

  
  

  And there is a great deal of truth in that.

  
  

  Always

  
  

  I’ll be loving you, Always
  With a love that’s true, Always.
  When the things you’ve planned
  Need a helping hand,
  I will understand, Always.
  
  Always.
  
  Days may not be fair Always,
  That’s when I’ll be there Always.
  Not for just an hour,
  Not for just a day,
  Not for just a year,
  But Always.
  
  I’ll be loving you, oh Always
  With a love that’s true Always.
  When the things you’ve planned
  Need a helping hand,
  I will understand Always.
  
  Always.
  
  Days may not be fair Always,
  That’s when I’ll be there Always.
  Not for just an hour,
  Not for just a day,
  Not for just a year,
  But Always.
  
  Not for just an hour,
  Not for just a day,
  Not for just a year,
  But Always.”

  
  

  ~Irving Berlin

  
  

  
   

  Hotter Than Mojave In My Heart by Iris Dement

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